Help with Dementia/Alzheimer’s
Hi guys, I’m sorry that I’ve been awol for the last four or five months but I’ve been dealing with some pretty heavy stuff. I need some help.
I guess I’ll start with a little back history. I’m an only child (and although I desperately wanted more, my 21 year old son is also an only child), my mom died 13 years ago. She was my best friend and the person that she was is still my guide for the person that I want to be. My mom has two remaining sisters, one lives in Connecticut and might as well be on another planet for the purposes of this post. Then there’s my Aunt Pat, the subject of this post. Aunt Pat was never able to have children so she was always like a second mom to me, a second grandmother to my son.
I knew that she was “slipping” a little mentally, but for limited amounts of time, in her own surroundings and with people that she knows well, she covers it pretty well so I didn’t realize the extent of it.
I talked to her and to my uncle about seeing a doctor but she would become very angry and refuse and he wouldn’t push the issue. She never was one to go to doctors, she believed in healing through food and vitamins, I don’t think that she ever got into herbal medicine but there were enough vitamin bottles in this house to stock a pharmacy.
My uncle had congestive heart failure and thought that he knew more than the doctors and constantly “adjusted” the amounts of his meds that he would take.
I guess you can see where this is going. He died of a heart attack back in May. They are both in their mid to late seventies.
Since he died, I’ve gotten to spend a handful of nights in my own home, God bless my husband for his understanding. My aunt is much worse than I knew and will eventually have to go to a nursing home but for as long as I can, I would like to keep her at home.
I work a full time and I’m coming to the realization that I’m going to have to hire in some help, one of the neighbors was helping during the day but suddenly cut us off without warning, without a word and won’t even answer phone calls. I have a suspicion of what happened but it’s neither here nor there, I’ll just have to find someone else.
SO, all of this backstory is to get to the point of my post. Aunt Pat will not go to a doctor and unfortunately, I can’t strap her into a car seat and force her like I could a child. Lol. She gets paranoid and goes into rages, not daily or anything like that but often enough that with everything else that I’m trying to deal with it just tears my nerves all to Heck.
I have found that it triggers some past trauma that I thought I had dealt with and I end up going into my bedroom and locking the door while she stalks the house, talking to herself (invariably about me and how I think I know everything).
So my question is this, does anyone know of some sort of herb or supplement that I can give her to help her stay calm? I’m not trying to drug her into oblivion, just to level out her moods a bit. I don’t have to worry about any medication interactions because she’s not on any medication.
If you’re going to tell me to take her to the doctor, save your breath because she will not go. Physically, she’s healthy as a horse, so let’s pretend we are a hundred years ago and Big Pharma wasn’t a thing.
Do any of you kind people have any recommendations for me? Thanks in advance and I apologize for the long long post. ❤️
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