Still worried.

marjstratton

Sorry I've been gone from here for several weeks. My husband had a major health scare. I'm still reeling from it. He is on the mend, but whether he'll completely recover is questionable.

In the middle of all this, he celebrated his 80th birthday and all of our kids and grandkids came from around the country to help us celebrate. I am most celebrating that he is still alive and with me. It can be so sudden that a loved one might be taken from us.

Michelle D

@marjstratton I'm so sorry! I will pray for your husband's recovery. I'm glad that you all were able to celebrate him!

Torey

Sorry to hear of this. Health scares often come as a tremendous shock.

Glad he is getting better. At his age, recovery might be a bit slower. I'm learning to deal with injuries and health concerns that take longer to get over as we age. Its a bit of a challenge at times.

Lisa K

@marjstratton my heart and prayers go out to you and your husband! I will add both of you to my prayers.

Something I learned when my dad had gotten sick was to cherish everyday and celebrate every day he feels better.

LaurieLovesLearning

I'm so sorry to hear of this. I am often struck by how quickly our lives can change.

I am glad you still have him and can enjoy more time together and I'm also glad that you can celebrate.

nicksamanda11

Death does happen quickly sometimes. Then we have the rest of our life however long that may be to attempt to learn to live with the loss.

marjstratton

Thank you everyone for your kind thoughts. Trying to help him to realize that he will do much better if he takes the time for his body to repair itself is hard. He wanted to go out and weed eat the yard today. He's a hard one to convince. All his previous heart attacks, he bounced back fairly quickly.

LaurieLovesLearning

@marjstratton This is what my grandfather did. He had a heart attack due to a theft at his house in the country. They stole his car by taking advantage of his desire to help. Their story was that they needed a phone to call for help because their car broke down (a lie), while the other got his car out. The car was his pride and of course, his only transportation. He was fortunate thats all they stole or did. This was within a week after my grandmother's death. He was in his early 90s.

After the heart attack, the family took his chain saw away so he wouldn't be cutting wood and hurt himself. So, after grumbling that they took his chain saw away, he got his axe out and chopped a cord of wood.

He was always a hard worker. He felt the need to keep working... he'd always worked hard. To convince him to do otherwise was really just futile. He had to keep his hands busy doing something productive & something he enjoyed.

You may have to find someone to do the chores you'd rather not have him do, but he sounds like he wants to stay relevant. See if you can find something that is important to get done that he can enjoy doing.

vickeym

@marjstratton Sorry to hear you are dealing with this. Will be praying for you both.

It is so hard when our loved ones have sudden (and unexpected) health issues. Even more so when they can't seem to slow down and let their bodies heal. I am dealing with that as well. Derek had a stroke on June 3rd and from the day he was released from the hospital I have had to struggle to keep him from over doing things until he heals.

We are also dealing with severe sleep apnea. He had surgery for that years ago. But it did not solve the problem. Second sleep study in three weeks is tonight. They are going to try a CPAP machine. They told him he stops breathing an average of 42 times within an hour or two. Now we know why we are both so tired all the time. I find myself awake counting how many breaths he takes before he stops again and nudging him to get him to breath.

My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

LaurieLovesLearning

@vickeym I understand the nudging to get your spouse to breathe again, and the tiredness. This is the way it goes with nasal polyps as well.

Sadly, the only "cure" of steroids and/or surgery are not good options. The latter can cause scarring, and reoccurance of the problem is generally expected.

MissPatricia

Sorry your husband has experienced some bad health problem, but glad that you still have him. We are a similar age; my husband has Parkinson's and is experiencing more decline. I tell him that I still love him and need him. He still sometimes helps with yard work when he is up to it. My pacemaker battery will soon need to be changed so I am hardly doing anything which is why I have not been posting. Did not pick blueberries from my 20 or so plants, but earlier in the season, I was pruning as they had grown too dense, making picking even harder.

vickeym

@marjstratton Thought I would check in and see how your husband is doing? How are you holding up? Still sending prayers for you both.

dipat2005

@marjstratton I understand about CPAP machines as I was diagnosed with sleep apnea years ago. They started me on a nasal cannula and I sounded like Darth Vader and then couldn't sleep, My neighbor talked to me about using a nose mask and that worked. So if something doesn't work try something else.

I will pray for your husband too!

marjstratton

Thanks everyone. My husband is doing remarkable well now. He just had a follow-up Eco cardiogram and seems to no longer have any fluid in his pericardium. He is getting back into a lot of his normal routine. I have to remined him from time to time to not overdo things.

Linda Bittle

@marjstratton Wonderful news! Thanks for the update.

Torey

Excellent news!

Michelle D

Oh, I'm so happy for you!

Lisa K

Great news!!